Help for Singles Dealing with Unemployment
Unemployment can be especially difficult when you are single. You might feel like you are going through this challenge alone or like you are lacking the encouragement you need. But just take a deep breath and relax, because you have more support than you realize. As you get started, you will be surprised at all of the different resources and people available to help you succeed in finding employment.
Turn to Your Family and Friends
Finding a job is much easier as you involve others instead of trying to do everything on your own. Family and friends make up a network of working professionals who can assist you in a variety of different ways. They can let you know of any openings where they work, connect you with others in their network, and provide you with additional resources through informational interviews. Expand your network by making connections through your social media channels such as LinkedIn, and don’t forget to turn to your ward and stake too.
Social situations usually start with, “So what do you do?” It’s all too easy to dwell on your unemployment, but don’t let it define who you are. Instead of just telling people you don’t have a job, tell them about your plans, goals, and other interests. Make sure to stay connected to things you care about; continue to be an active participant in any organization, club, class, or other group that you would normally interact with. Regularly attend church, go on dates, and strive to fulfill your calling. Look for opportunities to serve others. These social interactions can help reduce stress as well as provide you with additional networking opportunities. Although you may need to budget your time and money differently as you seek better employment, keep doing the things you enjoy.
Take Care of Yourself and Establish a Routine
Maintain your physical, mental, and emotional health while you are unemployed. Eating right and getting enough sleep are more important than ever as you fill your day with activities to help you meet your employment goals. Avoid excessive media use that can distract you from your job search, and don't oversleep or stay up too late. Wake up at a consistent time every day, and dress and get ready as if you're going to work. Stick to a routine—finding a job should become your full-time job while you are unemployed. Plan out each day, setting aside time for the various tasks you need to complete, and use the 15-10-2 technique to focus on the most important elements in your job search. You may consider participating in the Accelerated Job Search program, which encourages a daily job search routine.
Find a Mentor
A mentor is someone you can turn to when seeking improvement in your career. Whether employed or unemployed, you can benefit from finding a mentor who you can ask for advice and who you can meet with to discuss your long-term career goals. Choose someone you look up to or someone whose life path you aspire to follow, and seek his or her help and guidance. Mentors can be an individual in your family, ward, stake, or other social circles.
Choose a Job Coach
Different from a mentor, who gives you general career guidance, a job coach can help motivate and keep you accountable. He or she works one-on-one with you in assessing what is working and what is not working in your job search. A friend, someone in your ward, or a member of the staff at an LDS employment resource center could potentially serve as a job coach. You should meet with him or her on a regular basis to review your goals, practice interview skills, improve your résumé, and evaluate your progress.
Broaden Your Job Search
While looking for work, you may get stuck in a rut and become discouraged because your search isn’t yielding the results you would like. This frustrating situation can happen to anyone, but it is especially common if you limit your job search. For example, though many people search for jobs solely online, this tactic is not an effective approach to finding a job. You will be most successful as you use a variety of resources such as networking, creating a profile on ldsjobs.org, visiting an employment center, seeking out community resources, and working with mentors and job coaches.
Always remember to remain positive in whichever techniques you decide to use in your job search. When you put your trust in the Lord, you will be able to see that “the earth is full, and there is enough and to spare” (D&C 104:17). There are opportunities for you, and God will guide you as you seek them out.